We asked Howard Chan, Executive Director of PaLM, to share his reflection on being a father to 3 daughters for Father's Day. He said. . .
In my case, God blessed me with the responsibility of raising and nurturing three wonderful little girls into womanhood. The work of providing and caring for my three charges was at times hard and on occasion intimidating. But, the Odyssey each took me through was invariably filled with exceeding joy, enduring delight, and countless memories that I will never forget and will always cherish.My goals for my girls were that each would love our Lord and surrender her life to Him, mature into a woman while exercising her God-given gifts, and strive for excellence as each pursued her dreams. I am thankful to God that each is now an adult but also His child. Each has gone her separate way, but each continues to stay connected with one another and us. I am also profoundly grateful to have had the opportunity to have played an integral role in each of their lives. I look forward to seeing how God will continue to use each to bless and grow His kingdom in the days and years to come.
Given the typical Asian bias toward sons, does having daughters made any difference?
In answer to your questions in a nutshell. I guess I am not a “typical Asian” as the issue was never an issue for me. As far as I was concerned, God gives us whom he gives us. I have no control over that. I can only do my best with what God has blessed me with. My girls never heard, or saw me express in any way, a desire for boys over them. I consider myself blessed to have had three girls to raise.
All I wanted for my girls was for them to have the opportunity to pursue and fulfill their dreams . . . whatever that might be. As far as I was concerned, if God gave them the gifts, talents, and ability to excel in whatever they pursued, who am I to hold them back?
Howard is a native New Yorker who has been a part of the New York Asian American Christian Community his entire life. In the 70’s he served Grace Faith Church and volunteered with Chinatown Outreach for Christ. In the 80’s he began serving God full-time, first as a campus minister with InterVarsity Christian Fellowship, later as an English Ministry Pastor with Queens Herald Church and finally as the Executive Director of Pastoral and Laity Ministries which he continues to serve today.
This is the Chan Family Christmas 2015 Photo.